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Is an American flag t-shirt controversial?

It started with a birthday gift.  I found my husband the cutest American flag T-shirt at the J.Crew Outlet. (It was going to be the gift from the dogs to Don, lol.) It wasn't loud or flashy. The stripes of the flag were made from old wooden boat oars—a clever nod to summer, the coast, and Americana. I thought it was perfect to wear on the 4th of July. His response surprised me. "I don't know if I can wear this." Not because he didn't like it. Because he wasn't sure what people would assume about him if they saw an American flag on his shirt. That stopped me. Somewhere along the way, a symbol that was once broadly understood has become something people feel they have to explain. Whether you see that as good, bad, or inevitable isn't really my point. What fascinated me was how quickly we all start asking the same question: **What story will people tell about me before I ever get a chance to tell it myself?** That's not just a political question. It's...
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I Don't Want to Pick Sides

Dolly Parton is opening a business to compete with Buc-ee's. I honestly didn't see that coming. Now, if you've never been to Buc-ee's, you're probably thinking, it's a gas station. A convenience store.  That's where you are wrong. Oh so wrong. This majestic retail destination sits up on a hill and beckons you to go out of your way to get there. You are pulled to it like a magnet. My first Buc-ee's experience was in Sevierville, Tennessee, Dolly's hometown. I'm from Northern California and had never heard of the place. Within five minutes, I understood why people plan road trips around it. Imagine Disneyland if Disneyland sold beef jerky. Gas pumps as far as you can see. A giant sign out front telling you exactly what they pay their team — including the general manager. The wages are impressive. It has you second-guessing your career before you've even walked inside. Then you do walk inside. First stop: the bathrooms. Spacious. Spotless. Atten...

Determined Duck

I went to an event a few weeks ago. One of the giveaways was this little crocheted duck. He came with a tiny sign that says, Waddle with purpose. Success is just around the pond. Cute. I threw him in my bag. When I got home, I set him on my desk. And that's where things got weird. Because of the angle of his face... ...he's looking up at me. Not straight ahead. Not at my computer. At me. Every morning, I sit down at my desk and there he is. Just... Looking. Waiting. Like, "Okay...what are we accomplishing today?" At first I thought it was funny. Now I catch myself looking back at him. Like I somehow owe him progress. I swear I'm trying to make the little duck proud. ps. If you want your own duck, you can order one on cheer-space.com

Today's clutter dilemma: "Do you need this anymore?"

I recently visited my parents in Phoenix to celebrate my dad’s birthday. He just turned 95. My mom is 88. So, as you can imagine, things are moving at a slightly different pace. We spent a few days having nice meals, visiting with their friends, and helping them get a little more organized. My sister and I were only there for four days, but we decided this would also double as a light decluttering initiative. That part did not go as planned. My parents moved into a retirement community about six years ago. They have a one-bedroom, one and a half bath apartment. It is actually perfect. Just enough space, easy to manage, everything they need. Except. As the years go on, the stuff continues to grow. More holiday décor. More books. More things. And now, a surprising amount of front door décor. Every resident takes their front door very seriously. It is how they show their personality. How they welcome friends. How they say, “This is me.” Without it, the hall would feel like a hall. With it...

April Fools’ Day (A Brief History… and a Friendly Warning)

There was a time when I took April Fools’ Day very seriously. Not in a “call in sick and pretend you’re on a beach in Cabo” kind of way—but in a very strategic, well-timed, just-believable-enough kind of way. Elli and Don were, for years, the primary recipients of this effort. They never saw it coming. Which, in my opinion, is exactly the point. So… Who Started This? Like many traditions we all just go along with, April Fools’ Day has slightly unclear origins—but one of the most widely accepted stories goes back to 16th century France. When the calendar shifted and New Year’s Day moved to January 1, not everyone got the message right away. Those who kept celebrating in late March or early April became the subject of jokes and small pranks—earning the title “April fools.” And somehow, that energy carried forward for a few hundred years. Which feels right. The Art of the Perfect Prank There’s a difference between a good prank and an annoying one. A good prank: Is quick Is harmless Create...

A Mother's Day Worth Staying In For

There’s a certain rhythm to Mother’s Day. Reservations are made weeks in advance. Restaurants are full. Menus are fixed. The day moves quickly. And while there’s something to be said for tradition, there’s also something even more memorable about doing it differently. This year, consider staying in. Setting the table. Opening a great bottle of wine. Creating a moment that feels intentional, relaxed, and entirely your own. For me, that starts with a bottle of Silver Oak. Silver Oak is not an everyday wine, and that’s exactly the point. It’s the kind of bottle you open when the occasion calls for something more considered. A Cabernet Sauvignon known for its structure, balance, and unmistakable smoothness, it brings a quiet confidence to the table. This is not a wine that competes for attention. It elevates everything around it. And on a day meant to celebrate someone special, that feels exactly right. THE CASE FOR STAYING IN Entertaining at home allows for something restaurants can’t qui...

Weekend visit to Healdsburg for wine, food and relaxing

When Don and I first moved to California in 2005, one of the first wine regions we explored was Healdsburg. It is about one hour north from Mill Valley where we lived. Its quaint charm and amazing wine and food have kept us going back ever since.  We love the varietals from this region, particularly the Zinfandel from the Dry Creek area, Pinot Noir from the Russian River, and Cabernet Sauvignon from the Alexander Valley. Some of our favorite white wines are here too, like Sauvignon Blanc, Pinot Gris and Chardonnay. And don't forget Rose.  What makes Healdsburg so special is its balance of wine country charm and a true hometown feel. The town square sits right at the center, with a fountain and pavilion that naturally becomes the gathering place. On any given weekend, you'll find people lingering, drinking coffee, enjoying an ice cream cone, listening to music, and just enjoying the pace of it all. Most of our weekends follow a similar rhythm. We spend our days tasting wine, ta...